the one who got away?

I was browsing through my old blogs and sites so the next few entries would be blast from the past in themes.

This was from my multiply blog. A friend sent me this via e-mail when I was in college.

In your life, you'll make note of a lot of people.
Ones with whom you shared something special,
ones who will always mean something. There's the
one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the
one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a
pedestal, the one you're with... and the one that
got away.

Who is the one that got away? I guess it's that
person with whom everything was great,
everything was perfect, but the timing was just
wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was
no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn't
fall the right way, I suppose. I believe in the fact
that ending up with someone, finding a longtime
partner that is, does not lie merely in the other
person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or
maybe even the greater part, has to do with the
matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready
to settle down and commit to someone in a way
that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy
romance.

How often have you gone through it without even
realizing it? When you're not ready to commit in
that mature manner, it doesn't matter whom you're
with, it just doesn't work. Small problems become
big; inconsequentials become deal breakers
simply because you're not ready and it shows. It's
not that you and the person you're with are no
good; it's just that it's not yet right, and little things
become the flashpoint of that fact.

Then one day you're ready. You really are. And
when this happens you'll be ready to settle down
with someone. He or she may not be the most
perfect, they might not be the brightest stars of
romance to ever have burned in your life, but it'll
work because you're ready. It'll work because it's
the right time and you'll make it work. And it'll
make sense, it really will. So that day comes when
you're finally making sense of things, and you find
yourself to be a different person. Things are
different, your approach is different, you finally
understand who you are and what you want, and
you've become ready because the time has truly
arrived. And mind you, there's no telling when this
day will come. Hopefully you're single but you
could be in a long-term relationship, you could be
married with three kids, it doesn't matter. All you
know is that you've changed, and for some
reason, the one that got away, is the first person
you think about. You'll think about them because
you'll wonder, "What if they were here today?"
You'll wonder, "What if we were together now, with
me as I am and not as I was?" That's what the one
that got away is. The biggest "What if?" you'll have
in your life.

If you're married, you'll just have to accept the fact
that the one that got away, got away. Believe me,
no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage is,
this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully
you're mature enough to realize that you're already
with the one you're with and this is just another test
of your commitment, one which will just strengthen
your marriage when you get past it. Sure, you'll
think about him/her every so often, but it's alright.
It's never nice to live with a "might have been," but
it happens. Maybe the one that got away is the
one who's already married. In which case it's the
same thing. You just have to accept and know that
your memories of that person will probably bring a
nice little smile to your lips in the future when
you're old and gray and reminiscing. But if neither
of that is the case, then it's different. What do you
do if it's not yet too late? Simple...find him, find
her. Because the very existence of a "one that got
away" means that you'll always wonder, what if you
got that one?

Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it
doesn't matter if you've dropped in from out of
nowhere. You'd be surprised, you just might
be "the one that got away" as well for the person
who is youre the one that got away.

You might drop in from out of nowhere and it wont
make a difference. If the timing is finally right, it
will all just fall into place somehow and youll know.
Im thinking it will be a great feeling, in the end, to
be able to say to someone in Hey you, youre the
one that almost got away."